Emotional Control Through Forgiveness

Hello, everyone. This is Roland. Please take time to listen to this week's radio lecture about anger management, forgiving, and recovery. Find out about my free meditation.

This week's message:

"Love conquers all"

What you need to know about letting go of resentment, judgment and anger in order to be the real You and overcome evil.

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"Now the God of peace, that brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, that great shepherd of the sheep, through the blood of the everlasting covenant, Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen."

Roland Trujillo, author of 18 books and 25 year radio advice host, can be heard live on
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Try the Easy Meditation for Beginners

Most of us can hardly focus because we are lost in thinking and imagining. We are lost in our distractions. Perhaps you have noticed this yourself. 

We are distracted and  not centered, so when problems arise, instead of solving them, we get lost in worries, doubts and fears. The unfinished business combined with feeling off balance and out of control leads to anxiety.

The fact is that most of us are lost in thinking and imagining. We are lost in our distractions.

Many times when I am at Starbucks or at the library I see someone who comes in to study. He or she pulls out a textbook or notebook and begins to study, but after about 5 minutes, s/he inevitably reaches for the mobile device and begins scrolling for text messages or emails.

It is for this reason that I recommend beginning with the meditation available here.

If you cannot study or focus properly, constantly reaching for your iPhone to check text messages or constantly lost in your music or video games, how are you going to solve issues or even pray properly? Moreover, there is a residual effect that lingers after your texting, music, Internet or video game indulgence. It is called mental fog or brain fog.

When lost in thought, we are not fully there. You can drive right past your freeway exit.
All of this is to say that when people are immersed in the thought stream (or lost in emotional thinking), they are not totally there.

But the person who learns to meditate properly is restored to objectivity. Mentally standing back from thought, the person can observe thought instead of being lost in it.

Therefore, I recommend that you first clear the mind and learn to mentally stand back for objectivity.

The person who is not immersed in thinking and feeling, and mentally stands back from the thought stream is re-centered. Freedom and self sovereignty return.

When you begin to meditate properly, you will discover that you will be able to concentrate for the first time. Before you were merely caught up in one thing or another. When your attention was captured by one thing and another you were distracted. When you fixated on one thing for a long time, you thought you were concentrating, but your attention had been captured.

Once you begin to meditate, you will be in a state of mind which is receptive to common sense and problem solving.

Here is the very simple and easy meditation for beginners. It is in 2 parts.

Practice Part 1 three times and then do Part 2

Part 1     Getting Centered

Part 2    Getting Grounded

If you like the meditation, listen to the 20 minute mini lecture about putting the patience and confidence you gain from the meditation into practice

Emotional Trauma and Spiritual Recover - reading from a new book

We suffer because we are deny ourselves love. Our bodies suffer when we deny them love. And other people suffer when we tempt them to judge or resent us, thereby cutting themselves off from love.

Love is from God. When we walk in His Light and find a bond with Him within through a change of heart, we then experience His love—first His correction, then His forgiveness, followed by His protection. When we experience His forgiveness, we can forgive others. 

We must then also be honest with people. When you are not truthful with others, you are denying them love.

Why do we deny people love? Here are some of the reasons.

We do not understand that love must include truth. So we soften our words, hold our tongue, and try to never make anyone uncomfortable or feel bad. Thereby we allow them to continue in error.

We do not have faith in the power of Truth, and so we want people to be comfortable and experience a little happiness, without discomforting honesty.

Pain is the number one way to make people comply. That is why cruelty, deprivation, and punishment are rampant in this world. Pain is the way that the world gets obedience. It works in several ways. One way is because cruelty tempts the victim to become resentful. And when we are resentful, we thereby fall from love and all that is truly human. 

This causes a terrible psychic pain. This change for the worse, when the soul senses itself falling and failing, is so painful that it makes the soul cry out for relief.

Chances are it will cry out for love from the very one that degraded it. Later in life, the pain associated with the traumatic fall makes the person want to do anything to make the pain go away.

 Thereafter, whenever the victim remembers the cruelty that first degraded him, the pain makes him want to conform to anyone stronger in order ease the pain. Unfortunately, the pain can also make him want to lash out in violence and rage against whoever is weaker and happens to innocently bring the painful memory to mind.

Change is painful, even change for the better. The renowned waterfront philosopher Eric Hoffer aptly titled one of his books The Ordeal of Change. There is a dying or disintegration of a former way of doing things or of a former identity, and there is a taking on of a new way with which one is uncomfortable and unfamiliar.

Most change is for the worse. In the moment when we are treated cruelly (which can take a thousand forms, and usually first occurs in the family), and we respond with resentment—we die a little as the innocent human being we were and we take on a new way, the way of the cruel beast. 

The cruelty can also make us doubt what is good and true. This doubt also makes for our changing for the worse, as we become a part of the world which made us doubt, and we give up the ideals and innocent pursuits of youth to become shallow and ambitious, just like the ones who tempted us. 

The suffering makes us cling to the new dominant ones for reassurance for the altered thing we are becoming, and for comfort to assuage the pain.

Every time you react with resentment or judgment to some cruelty, a change for the worse occurs in you. A little bit of you dies, and it is replaced by a piece of the new order—the one behind the cruelty.